...well...as long as you didn't kill a Jew you don't have something to apologize for.
Indeed. That's the whole point.
That's not what the Jews want...most of them anyhow....it's more about the recognition that there something happened.
No. Everybody knows that something happened, this was known since the beginning, there was a memorial there. Jews do not want the world to learn that Jews were killed at Jedwabne of all places. Jews want all Poles to accept the responsibility just because Gross wrote a book. No discussion is allowed, research is blocked, questions are antisemitic. Gross hath spoken, and Poles are to kowtow and apologise.
Even if Gross's version was 110% true, there's nothing to apologise for on the national level. One village went amok, allegedly, and murdered Jews, the rest of the nation is not responsible. Demanding the whole nation to pay for it is tribal thinking - and this is a sympathetic interpretation.
Don't even bring Ukraine here. One atrocity, not even properly confirmed, does not compare at all to systematic large scale murder by a dedicated organisation following national ideas and now elevated to the hero status. You'd better start thinking why there's no world-wide Jewish outrage about UPA.